You know, a lot of people tell us things like, “Just get a divorce” or “It’s just a piece of paper” or “He’s not good enough for you!” Well, let me tell you something…..THAT IS NOT WHAT GOD WANTS!

Marriage was His idea, as it says in Genesis. Go read the book of Genesis and see how God created the earth, all the birds, the animals, the fish of the sea, etc.. Then, how He made Adam and Eve. This was the first marriage and also the first sin!

Someone else whispered to Eve and she listened to an outsider instead of remembering what the Father said about eating from the Tree of Life. Look where it got her!!!

God made marriage to be a commitment between a man and a woman. In Matthew 19:4-6 NLT, 4 Jesus says to the Pharisees: “Haven’t you read the Scriptures?” Jesus replied. “They record that from the beginning ‘God made them male and female.'” 5 And he said, “This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one. 6 Since they are no longer two but one, let no one split apart what God has joined together.”

So, marriage has been defined in the Bible and Jesus said in verse 6 Since they are no longer two but one, let no one split apart what God has joined together.” Is that clear enough for you? Are you supposed to be listening to other people about what you should do? I think not!

Go to God for your answers! Then listen, really listen!

Here are some tips from Unity Marriage Ministry:

1. NEVER GIVE UP! Every marriage will go through ups and downs. It’s part of life. Jesus said we would go through trouble in this world. John 16:33 NIV says, “I have told you these thing, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take hearts! I have overcome the world.”  Remember, if it seems like more than you can bear on your own, it is absolutely okay to ask for help from a professional counselor, coach, someone from the church or an older, married couple who can help you through the hard times.
2. FIGHT FOR YOUR MARRIAGE, NOT IN IT. The things you invest in, the more valuable they become to you. So, invest in your marriage! What you invest in and value, you will fight for. There are two ways to know you’re fighting for your marriage and not in it: *First, focus on what you need to change in yourself before pointing a finger at your spouse. Taking responsibility for yourself and what you have contributed to the problem eliminates much of the fighting “in” your marriage. **2nd, try not to use the word “you”. Use the word “I” instead. Don’t put the focus on your spouse. Point out that you recognize your part. This lets your partner know that you really want to work on your marriage and you are taking steps to correct your behavior.
3. GUARD YOUR MARRIAGE. Marriages are valuable to God. So, of course, Satan wants to create division in as many marriages as he can! If he can divide you and your spouse, then he can make people question God’s design for relationships. Christians and non-Christians can become easily distracted from Jesus’ offer of salvation. Satan likes to whisper in your ear and put doubt in your mind. When those doubts start to come up, you need to guard your mind. Write this scripture out and put it in places where you can easily find it, like the bathroom, kitchen, in your wallet or purse if you are at work, etc., it’s found in Philippians 4:8 NLT, where the apostle Paul gives advice: And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise.
4. PURSUE YOUR SPOUSE. When you feed and water your plants, they thrive. The same thing applies to your marriage! When you pursue your spouse, you feed your marriage. Everyone wants to feel a connection to their partner. Showing them how much you love them and want to be with them makes the roots of the marriage grow stronger and deeper. Peter, one of the twelve disciples and one of Jesus’ close friends, reminds us in 1 Peter 4:8 NIV, Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers a multitude of sins. You might ask your spouse what makes them feel loved by you. Be intentional about making your spouse your 1st priority after Jesus.
5. PRAY FOR YOUR MARRIAGE, FOR YOUR SPOUSE, AND FOR YOURSELF. We all know how powerful prayer is…so use it! It is a weapon the enemy cannot stand against. When you pray and you are praying for God’s will in your marriage, you begin to see how God sees your spouse. this is very important so you understand that they are God’s child, too, just like you. He loves them just as much as He loves you! As you pray for them, your marriage and yourself, God will show you what you need to do for yourself. Let God transform you, while trusting Him to do the same for your spouse.

I hope this helps you and your marriage! You can always go to our Prayer Wall and add a prayer request. It does not need to be about marriage or a relationship. It can be about anything! It would be our pleasure to pray and stand with you!

If you need to talk with someone, please reach out to info@unitymarriageministry.org. It would bless and honor us to speak with you! REMEMBER:

WE    ARE     HERE     FOR    YOU!