Have you looked at foundation of your marriage? So, you may ask me…”What do you mean the foundation of my marriage?”
Well, let’s think about this! The foundation of a healthy marriage is a marriage with Jesus at the center. In order to answer this question, we need to answer a couple of different questions first.
- Does my marriage glorify God?
- Do I experience all the things that God designed marriage to be, like joy, unity, and a sense of purpose?
A marriage is not a 50/50 relationship. God designed a covenant marriage to 100/0 for both individuals. In this way, you glorify God.
What I mean is that each person must give 100% of themselves to the marriage in service to God. Most people don’t understand this type of math. Basically, you die to yourself, meaning you put your spouse’s needs above your own. It is not easy and it takes practice, practice and more practice.
You look to God first – ALWAYS! Then, your spouse. The marriage that glorifies God is explained in the two greatest commandments:
Matthew 22:37-40 NLT
37Jesus replied, ” ‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and all your mind.’ 38 This is the first and greatest commandment. 39 A second is equally important: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ 40 The entire law an all the demands of the prophets are based on these two commandments.” 
These are commandments that we all must live by as believers. We are individually responsible to carry out these commandments in our daily lives. It does not matter what was said or how you were treated by your spouse. We are to show the love of God in all human relationships which means in marriage, too!
In 1 John 4:16-20 NLT, it reads:
16 We know how much God loves us, and we have put our trust in his love. God is love, and all who live in love live in God, and God lives in them. 17 And as we live in God, our love grows more perfect. So we will not be afraid on the day of judgment, but we can face him with confidence because we live like Jesus here in this world. 18 Such love has no fear, because perfect love expels all fear. If we are afraid, it is for fear of punishment, and this shows that we have not fully experienced his perfect love. 19 We love each other, because he loved us first. 20 If someone says, “I love God,” but hates a fellow believer, that person is a liar; for if we don’t love people we can see, how can we love God, whom we cannot see? 21 And he has given us this command: Those who love God must also love their fellow believers.
So, you see, the story of love is not about our love, but about God’s love for us. This is the kind of love we should be demonstrating in our own lives, including in our marriages. We need to think what the Lord’s work in our life needs to look like. Are we loving our spouses, our neighbors, friends and family like God loves us? This question goes to our salvation, and it is the crux of our foundation. In other words, it is the most important point at issue.
Once you have secured the foundation of your marriage, then God can bless you with everything He intended marriage to be! You will experience all the joy, all the unity, and the sense of purpose that is found in a covenant marriage. It does not mean there won’t be trials. It just means that when God is at the center, no weapon formed against you can prosper!
I hope this helps you and your marriage! You can always go to our Prayer Wall and add a prayer request. It does not need to be about marriage or a relationship. It can be about anything! It would be our pleasure to pray and stand with you!
If you need to talk with someone, please reach out to info@unitymarriageministry.org. It would bless and honor us to speak with you! REMEMBER:
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