Have you ever heard of Transitional Stress? First, transitions bring changes, all kinds of changes! So, a lot of times the words, change or transition, is used interchangeably, We all face changes from the time we are born until the time that our Father calls us home. There is no way to get around it or eliminate it. It is a part of life and marriage. Some transitions bring us stress and anxiety. Some changes are as simple as a new haircut or hairstyle, maybe it’s a new car or a promotion! Some changes are positive and make us happy. Even birthdays can bring about changes. These are ALL changes or transitions!

Transitional stress can be positive or negative and it is how we choose to react to the changes that determines if they are  positive or negative. It is our perception that matters!

God has given us the ability to CHOOSE how we are going to respond to the changes that come up in our lives. For example, Vik had a Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI) back in 2017. He underwent emergency surgery and I was told he would be in the hospital for 2-3 months. We walked out on the 5th day!!!! God was with us! However, the person I married changed to someone else. He looked the same, but his personality changed! He was a different person! It was not easy and I cried a lot (in the shower when I was by myself)! But Jesus has been with both of us through the whole process! His will be done not mine!!! I chose to embrace this transition because I loved my husband and our Lord spared his life because I asked Him to. I had people all over the world praying for Vik! BUT GOD!!! He taught me how to walk and deal with the changes in our lives. He was there to comfort me when I didn’t understand and didn’t know what to do. All I knew how to do was PRAY! And that got me through my days and nights. There are a lot more details, but what I am getting at is that I CHOSE to look at the positive and not the negative. Jesus is the one who has been with me my whole life and I trust Him completely!  So, He will use this for our good and He has! Our marriage is so much stronger! Allowing transition or change to transform you, your life and your marriage, emotionally, spiritually and mentally can bring about a better YOU which, in turn, brings about better relationships, a closer bond with our Savior and a strength you never knew you had! WHY, you ask? because you did not have control over the situation! You had to allow God to be GOD! When you surrendered, He was able to do what He wanted to do! When God has control there is no end to the possibilities!

When things get tough, change the tides by listening to worship music or something fun; watch a comedy; play a fun game; tell jokes….anything to lighten the mood! Laughter is the BEST MEDICINE! Let everything go for awhile. You can relax and just be, then everyone will feel better!

Show grace to each other. It’s so important! Speak lovingly to each other, encourage and lift each other up, and don’t dwell on the negative. Get rid of the negativity because transitional stress either grows or damages your relationships.

Proverbs 15:1 NLT reads: A gentle answer deflects anger, but harsh words make tempers flare.

I hope this helps you and your marriage! You can always go to our Prayer Wall and add a prayer request. It does not need to be about marriage or a relationship. It can be about anything! It would be our pleasure to pray and stand with you!

If you need to talk with someone, please reach out to info@unitymarriageministry.org. It would bless and honor us to speak with you! REMEMBER:

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